Pacific Standard May-June 2013 Cover

Veiled Doubts: New Data on Reasons to Say ‘I Don’t’

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There is nothing so spectacular as the birth of a marriage—the pomp, the flowers, the gown, the string quartet, the sobbing mothers-in-law—nor so messy as the postponement of one. Wedding-day freak-outs are by now a standard plot point—or, as in “Runaway Bride,” the whole point—of any saccharine Hollywood romantic comedy, but the real-life kind have somewhat less cinematic endings: in 2005, a Georgia bride-to-be faked her own kidnapping and inspired a statewide manhunt before turning up in New Mexico, the victim of nothing more than cold feet. New research from the University of ... Read More

Should Wedding Gowns Come in Camo and Khaki?

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Military divorces are at a twelve-year high, military families are struggling with repeated combat deployments, and even when at least one spouse has a steady—if dangerous—job, the poor economy makes running a household that much harder and the idea of leaving a secure job unpalatable. Yet after studying this bleak landscape for more than a decade, UCLA psychologist Benjamin Karney draws one strong conclusion: military unions are surprisingly robust. When Karney and two coauthors from the RAND Corporation, David S. Loughran and Michael S. Pollard, compared military members ... Read More

R.I.P. Traditional Marriage

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The idea of Government-managed marriage — the institution that dates from the 1600s and has long been considered one of the foundations of the social structure of civilization — is rumored to have passed away, quietly, in 2011. It has been widely reported that the institution died of complications from a progressive disease. The causes include growing equality in the workforce, social acceptance of licenseless sex, and the dissolving of the stigma of being either single or gay. In its prime, marriage offered economic structure and support to women who didn’t work outside the home, ... Read More

Prop 8 May Be Same-Sex Couples’ Least Worry

Editor’s note: On Tuesday, the U.S. 9th Circuit Court of Appeals upheld a ruling that California’s voter-approved ban on same-sex marriage, Proposition 8, was unconstitutional. Backers of the proposition vowed to appeal. In this December 2008 interview, law professor Jennifer Drobac outlines why lawsuits over Prop 8’s constitutionality aren’t vital to the legal rights of same-sex couples. November’s passage of California’s Proposition 8, which amends the state’s constitution to outlaw same-sex marriage and which the state Supreme Court upheld today, is the latest flashpoint in ... Read More

Deadbeat Dad Policy Needs Renewed Scrutiny

The federal government’s child support enforcement program is largely built around a single goal: Extracting money from fathers. “The way that the system is set up is that the government child support agencies in the states have incentives to collect as much as possible from the families in their case load,” said Joy Moses, a senior policy analyst with the Poverty and Prosperity program at the Center for American Progress. “Oftentimes, when you talk to folks in the child support community, they are highly focused on how are they going to meet that goal. How are they going to ... Read More

What I Could Tell Tiger About Divorce

Tiger Woods is hitting greens again and his now ex-wife Elin Nordegren has established residence on the cover of People magazine. Now that they have calmed the tornado of divorce with a settlement granted by a state court in Panama City, Fla., the couple may think that the worst part of their breakup is over. I know from personal experience that the hardest part of divorce starts when your ex falls in love and settles down, and his or her new partner snuggles up at night with your kids to read Goodnight Moon. Suddenly, you're sharing the mommy or daddy space with a stranger. Six years ... Read More

The Edwards Effect?

The 2008 tabloid revelation that presidential contender John Edwards had been caught in affair with a campaign staffer shocked many supporters who reveled in the candidate's family values shtick. This was, after all, a man routinely found at press junkets playing the model caregiver of a terminally ill wife. While Edward's begrudging disclosure of adultery marked a low in political duplicity, his affair and possible separation from his wife is — apparently — part of an all-too-common phenomenon. A new study, published in the Nov. 15 issue of the academic journal Cancer, suggests that ... Read More

Helping Kids Weather Divorce

To stave off emotional problems children face stemming from divorce, psychologists have spent the past two decades developing a handful of prevention programs and running them through the experimental wringer. Despite successes in dozens of cities and counties, most have yet to expand on a large scale. "We have programs that make a difference in the lives of children. The next frontier — which we're not as good at — is moving them out to the public," said Arizona State University professor Irwin Sandler. There is a large public out there — every year 1.5 million children live ... Read More